I’ll be the first to admit these posts are tedious to write (and, perhaps, to read). That said, I’m glad to have this record. Also, it forces me to spend a bit of a dedicated time on reflection even though I feel like my thoughts are a jumbled mess at the end of each month and there are no neat and tidy conclusions.
I want to offer you neat and tidy conclusions. I want to have neat and tidy conclusions. I suppose conclusions are for deathbeds. While I’m alive and kickin’ I’ll always be growing, iterating, learning, messing up, etcetera.
March felt especially disjointed. We left the country for a week. Life was crazy. The weather was the pits. But I continued to think and ruminate and read and consider all things rest/Sabbath/Shmita.
*(Here is a post I wrote about announcing my Year of Shmita and my January and February recaps.)
MONTHLY NOTES
MAJOR THEMES
- Relationships. Diane made some insightful comments on February’s post, and mentioned Shmita’s 7-year cycle lines up with the “seven-year itch” often documented in relationships. She theorized perhaps this “itch” is a cyclical reminder to rest and rejuvenate those relationships; a nudge to invest time (remember, Shmita/Sabbath are all about time) into those we love the most.
- Time. Diane also made an excellent point about how fasting could include our time and schedules. While it can feel luxurious to have flexible time, it’s easy to fill that time with “empty calories.” She wondered about the possibility of emptying our schedules – fasting, in a way – to better understand what is filling our hours. Fascinating.
- My role. It’s me. Hi. I’m the problem? Am I the problem?! As more and more research sheds light on the impact of constant distraction and online engagement, doesn’t that mean I’m contributing to the problem? If I put content out into the world, doesn’t that make me partially responsible for keeping people glued to their devices? These are mostly rhetorical questions for me at this point, but something to consider…
- Ecology. What happens to land when it’s left fallow for a year? The natural nutrient balance is restored. It helps rid the land of crop pests. Nutrients and minerals hidden deep in the ground rise toward the surface. The land regains its ability to hold moisture.
A few book quotes and/or thoughts that I jotted down.
- Does the path I’m walking lead to a place I want to go? If I keep heading this way, will I like where I arrive? [How’s that for profound?]
- Any deep change in how we LIVE begins with a deep change in how we THINK.
- Why not rest/play now and work later? What if doing something enjoyable first will give me energy and momentum?
I also wanted to be more purposeful about noticing themes of rest in art: books, music, paintings, dance.
BOOKS I READ THAT RELATE TO SABBATH
- The Bible.
- 24/6: Giving Up Screens One Day a Week to Get More Time, Creativity, and Connection by Tiffany Shlain. (3/5 stars). This was okay. I feel like it was lacking…something to draw me in? I didn’t feel connected to the author or her family in the slightest. She speaks about the religious aspect of a Sabbath, but isn’t religious herself, so that part felt forced and stilted. It wasn’t hard to finish, but it left me feeling underwhelmed. Great concept, but not quite right on the execution.
- Garden City: Work, Rest, and the Art of Being Human by John Mark Comer. (3.5 stars rounded up to 4). Comer writes in a unique – slightly irreverent – style. I found the flow of this book to be choppy, there were a few glaring editorial issues, and I didn’t find the message as coherent as his more recent writing. But I appreciated the central message: whatever we do, we are called to glorify God.
- Screaming on the Inside: The Unsustainability of American Motherhood by Jessica Grose. (3.5 stars rounded up to 4). A deep look at the unsustainability of motherhood. It is very American-centric (this makes sense; America is in the title) but I think it would have been helpful to have some additional perspective on motherhood from other cultures.
- I Didn’t Do the Thing Today: Letting Go of Productivity Guilt by Madeleine Dore. (3/5 stars). There were many great things in this book…but they were buried in far too many words. I don’t know what it was exactly, but I felt exhausted reading it and didn’t actually finish the whole thing. I am rating it and marking it read because I finished the majority of the chapters (and took quite a few notes), but it felt like a slog which was such a shame because there were some great nuggets hidden in the pages. The book just needed to be about 1/2 the length and “punchier.”
- Growing Up Amish by Ira Wagler. This was an interesting behind-the-scenes look at someone who left the Amish community and the fall out from that decision. It was a good – but not griping or overly memorable – memoir. I read it mostly to see if there were mentions of a traditional Sabbath practice (there were not).
- Paris in Love by Eloisa James. (4/5 stars). This was a book full of fun, short observations on womanhood, parenting, marriage, body image, and Paris. Not groundbreaking but I chuckled regularly and enjoyed the read.
- Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World by Cal Newport. (4/5 stars). This was a re-read for me. I continue to have a few basic contentions with Cal Newport – most notably the lack of female diversity in his books – but this is a solid read and very relevant in 2024.
- The Sabbath World: Glimpses of a Different Order of Time by Judith Shulevitz. (3/5 stars). This book…confused me. I found it hard to engage with the material. Some of Shulevitz’s anecdotes were interesting, but most of the book was tedious and/or boring. I found it a slog and was only skimming the text by the end.
- The Rest of God: Restoring Your Soul by Restoring Sabbath by Mark Buchanan. (4/5 stars). The first half of this book was so dynamic and challenging (in good ways) that I could not put it down. The second half felt like a completely different book – much less engaging and compelling. That said, it offers a solid Christian perspective on the concept of Sabbath; Buchanan provides a general framework for why and how to observe a Sabbath but with grace and flexibility.
I wrote down a lot of quotes from the books I mentioned above; this isn’t an exhaustive list of those quotes – nor does it necessarily represent my absolute favourites – but it’s a good sampling of the type of inspiration I was drawn to…
QUOTES
The Bible
- Ecclesiastes 3 – the famous passage about there being a time for everything under the sun. A time to be silent. A time to plant. A time to heal. So many of the phases listed seemed relevant to the themes of rest and Sabbath.
- This passage from the Gospels (the story is recounted in Mark, Matthew, and Luke). Here’s the account from Mark 3: Another time Jesus went into the synagogue, and a man with a shriveled hand was there. 2 Some of them were looking for a reason to accuse Jesus, so they watched him closely to see if he would heal him on the Sabbath. 3 Jesus said to the man with the shriveled hand, “Stand up in front of everyone.” 4 Then Jesus asked them, “Which is lawful on the Sabbath: to do good or to do evil, to save life or to kill?” But they remained silent.5 He looked around at them in anger and, deeply distressed at their stubborn hearts, said to the man, “Stretch out your hand.” He stretched it out, and his hand was completely restored. 6 Then the Pharisees went out and began to plot with the Herodians how they might kill Jesus.
In Matthew 12, it highlights that Jesus also compared this to a shepherd (very relatable in ancient Israel) seeing a sheep fallen into a pit and not rescuing it on the Sabbath. His conclusion: How much more valuable is a person than a sheep! Therefore it is lawful to do good on the Sabbath.
What I realized, though, is this man had a chronic condition. Jesus could have waited until Saturday at sundown through to Friday at sundown to perform this miracle. There was no time sensitivity here, but He saw a man in pain – a man of infinite value to the Saviour of the world – so He healed him. Then and there. On the Sabbath. I have never, ever considered this healing story through this lens and it adds so much depth to Christ’s miracle. (Even typing this paragraph out tears are coming to my eyes. Imagine being healed by the Messiah! On the Sabbath!)
24/6 – Tiffany Shlain
- Time is the ultimate form of human wealth on this earth. Without time, all other forms of wealth are meaningless. It is this insight about time – patently obvious but frequently forgotten – that makes keeping a Sabbath day both spiritually profound and politically radical. To reclaim time is to be rich.
Garden City – John Mark Comer
- …burnout isn’t always the result of giving too much; sometimes it’s the result of trying to give something you don’t have to give in the first place.
- Work is “the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.” That’s what you’re looking for – the intersection between what you love and what your world needs.
- The Church’s approach to an intelligent carpenter [insert any other job] is usually confined to exhorting him to not be drunk and disorderly in his leisure hours and to come to church. What the church should be telling him is this: that the very first demand that his religion makes upon him is that he should make good tables.
- …the Sabbath is a memorial. At Sinai it looks back to Eden [creation, God’s glory], but in Deuteronomy it looks back to Egypt [God’s deliverance of the Israelites].
- …we are made in His [God’s] image. God works, so we work. God rests, so we rest.
Screaming on the Inside – Jessica Grose
- Exclusive breastfeeding “is a serious time commitment…this is why, when people say that breast-feeding is ‘free’ I want to hit them with a two-by-four. It’s free only if a woman’s time is worth nothing.” [As someone who wasn’t physically capable of breast-feeding and felt very much less-than because of this “deficiency” along with being friends with women who have struggled to juggle work and nursing/pumping, etc – I think this is timely.]
- If we could stop layering guilt atop ourselves every single day, what could we accomplish?
I Didn’t Do the Thing Today – Madeleine Dore
- …time is how you spend your love [Zadie Smith]; perhaps it’s worth asking how we can manage our love rather than our time?
- …we forgo what we enjoy for something we deem more noteworthy.
- Just as storms have seasons, the triggers that cause me pain or distress come in patterns. I can’t prevent them; I can only do my best to soothe this particular cycle until it dies out. Then I look around me at the land that has been flattened and destroyed, as if a cyclone has swept across my life. I begin to pick up the pieces and rebuild, but I never lose sight of the sky, knowing the wind can pick up again anytime.
- If nothing in nature blooms all year, why should you?
Paris in Love – Eloisa James
- One of the hardest things for me to remember is that just because a dish takes six hours in the kitchen it will not necessarily make guests as happy as a familiar recipe done well.
- An important part of preserving memories is deliberately letting some go.
- Invalides Metro station at 8:30 in the morning smells like buttered toast, which makes me remember my mother, slathering butter on to homemade bread. Today Anna said dreamily “I love this brand-new croissant smell.” I realized that she is creating her own buttery memories to be recalled decades from now.
Digital Minimalism – Cal Newport
- Minimalism is the art of knowing how much is just enough.
- He [Thoreau] asks us to treat the minutes of our life as a concrete and valuable substance – arguably the most valuable substance we possess – and to always reckon with how much of this life we trade for the various activities we allow to claim our time.
- …solitude is a prerequisite for original and creative thought; solitude is not a pleasant diversion, but instead a form of liberation from the cognitive oppression that results in its absence.
The Sabbath World – Judith Shulevitz
- No one thinks of time as a moral entity. We think of it as a mathematically neutral one. But what was the labour movements fight for shorter days and workweeks about, if not the social morality of time. And how about the way we’re always recalibrating our feelings for our friends…based on how many minutes they’ve kept us waiting.
- The extraordinariness of the Sabbath lies in its being commonplace. We who look at religion from the outside think of transcendence as something that occurs at special moments, in concentrated bursts of illumination, but people raised in homes where religious ritual occurs over breakfast and at dinner…know that revelation commingles promiscuously with routine. If ritual is art, then it is stretched over the frame of habit.
- [Consuming is not just buying – if you buy a new gadget you have to maintain it, call help desks; Walden would say that the cost of something is how much of life is exchanged for using it.]
The Rest of God – Mark Buchanan
- Sabbath is both a day and an attitude to nurture such stillness. It is both time on a calendar and a disposition of the heart.
- The Chinese join two characters to form a single pictograph for busyness: heart and killing.
- …a good definition of Sabbath: imitating God so that we stop trying to be God.
- Slaves don’t rest. Slaves can’t rest. Slaves, by definition, have no freedom to rest. Rest, it turns out, is a condition of liberty.
- Sabbath-keeping is more art than science. It is more poetry than arithmetic.
- The truth is, we’re always a bit restless. We’re supposed to be. This is not a flaw in our faith, it is faith’s substance. It is a divine ruse to keep us from making permanent settlement this side of eternity. Our citizenship is in heaven. [Mic drop.]
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Nicole MacPherson
It’s so great how you are prioritizing rest, even if March was a bit of an up and down month for that.
I like thinking about the social morality of time, and also the concept that Sabbath is precious because it’s common. So many things in my day are just routine and ritual, and maybe that’s what makes them special? Hmm…something to think about!
Elisabeth
I think it’s Gretchen Rubin who quotes someone as saying things we do every day and things we do very rarely are what matter to us the most (paraphrasing). It’s true. A beloved coffee ritual is almost as special as a beloved Christmas morning ritual. One happens daily, the other annually. The things we do sporadically tend to not take on as much significance.
I had never concretely thought about time having a social morality, but doesn’t that make so much sense?!
Jenny
First of all- you are not the problem! There’s a huge difference between making a conscious decision to read a blog that lifts you up, gives you interesting things to think about, and encourages connection in the community- and mindlessly watching tiktok videos. I have a reason for each of the blogs I read, and I feel like they all enrich my life in some way or another. Just wanted to throw that out there in case you’re thinking of shutting down your blog to get us off our screens (no! Don’t do it!)
Taking an international trip will definitely throw your month off. But it really helps to have an underlying theme for the year, doesn’t it? You did a lot of thoughtful reading! I like the idea of time equaling wealth, and rest being a condition of liberty. Interesting things to think about…
Elisabeth
Ha! No, I was NOT planning to stop posting, just – as always – thinking about content and frequency and my own habits. Though, I have a new blog habit I’m trying to form and will report back once I’ve tested it out for a month or so.
Kyria @ Travel Spot
I am a big fan of rest/play now and work later, or maybe at least don’t work so hard now and actually enjoy yourself while you can, as we don’t know what comes next. We have to make hay while the sun shines and all that. I think you can categorize your international trip as part of your “rest/play” even if it maybe felt like more work than relaxation at times. It is still something that is an experience that is enriching your life and is not just working your fingers to the bone. So maybe it is not “rest” but I feel that it is essential!
Elisabeth
Rest takes many forms. Some rest is physical rest, some is emotional, and some is just the need for some change and spontaneity. You are checking lots of those boxes with your current adventure!
NGS
It’s really interesting to think about time and where it all goes. I tried to do time tracking once and had an anxiety spiral because all I could think about was how my day-to-day use of time was not really how I wanted to prioritize things. Like, if I spend two and a half hours EVERY DAY doing pet-related care, is that really what I want to be prioritizing in life? But then again, it’s LIFE, right? I also spend a good chunk of every day doing personal care, cooking, and eating and there’s no way around that even if food consumption isn’t a priority. And then I get stressed out all over again. So, yeah. Time as a finite resource is really stressful. I guess I don’t know what I’m trying to say other than SOLIDARITY, GIRL.
Elisabeth
Most of our time is filled with doing unremarkable things and yet I think, somehow, we think the opposite is true for others? I’ll never forget hearing someone say: The Kardashians s*** too. We all do humdrum stuff every day and that ends up filling most of our hours. All of us! So maybe it’s HOW we do those things. Also, I think that having pets brings you an inordinate amount of joy, and it takes a lot of time. Ditto with things like blogging, parenting, exercise etc. You can’t exactly own a pet and take care of them when you feel like it. Well, sadly, I guess that does happen (with both pets and kids) but it’s not how it should be done. Most things we’re going to love and value take time. That’s what makes them valuable! Deep down we do view time as our most precious resource, so to exchange time to care for something/do an activity signals we value it. Obviously, we can spend a lot of time on things that we don’t value (say, late-night shopping binges online)…but that’s where a good time audit might be useful?
I think, based on your blogging, I can safely say you use your time very well investing in friends, your marriage, your job, your pets, your own health. Gold stars, Engie.
All that to say, yes – time is a HUGE concept…
Suzanne
Love this so much: “I suppose conclusions are for deathbeds.” Something for me to chew on for awhile. Especially because I am so often desperate for The Answer, you know?
To the subject at hand: I love your reflections on Schmita, and I am so impressed by how deeply you are digging into this concept.
Your comment about being part of the problem really resonated with me. (NOT that I think in any way that you, Elisabeth, are part of any problem. And as far as digital content goes, I find your posts thought provoking and/or uplifting and/or comforting in a way that other media I consume is most definitely NOT. I think the community-conversation feel of the blogs I read is valuable in a way that learning the news or reading recipes or playing Wordle is not.) I have been thinking about this a lot lately, too — the idea of “producing content” and what that means and what value that act provides to me or others. I haven’t come to any conclusions, and don’t feel like I’ve got my head wrapped around it yet, but it is something that’s on my mind and I would love to hear more of your thoughts on the subject when you are ready to share.
Elisabeth
I want The Answer, too, Suzanne! Though Jenny has part of The Answer in that the main Secret to Adulthood is getting older!
I hadn’t really thought about the fact that by putting things out into the world I am automatically a part of the “problem” at some level. I think that it’s a bit like saying pharmaceutical companies should never make Oxy or highly-addictive drugs of that ilk. That’s a zero-sum conclusion because we need medicines like that to save lives. But, when harnessed in the wrong way, they destroy lives in the most horrific of ways. (This is not designed to be a one-for-one example! I am NOT TRYING TO COMPARE MYSELF TO A PHARMACEUTICAL COMPANY, GAH). I guess what I’m saying is: I need to produce things with thought and care. But, ultimately, I have to recognize that my content could have a negative ripple. It’s not enough to say good outweighs bad, but can I control it. Let’s say, for example, I make someone envy my life. Or they binge-buy all the things I ever mention. How culpable am I? (Rhetorical question…?)
For now I have a clear conscience on these things and I ultimately write for myself! It feeds my soul and I feel like God created a deep longing in me to write since an early age, but it’s daunting to think that it’s not necessarily wholly positive. Do I make concrete changes to how I engage online? I’m not sure, but something to mull over moving forward.
Lisa’s Yarns
So many good reflections in this post. I just listened to the lazy genius episode for the perpetually tired. That is so how I would describe myself and then I feel guilty that I use her word to describe myself. And yet I am very tired, especially today after being awake for a big chunk of the night. She talked about choosing rest more frequently and in smaller doses. Like don’t think the answer to your exhaustion is to go on vacation because surely it won’t be restful. Instead choose rest when you can in small doses. That is what I need to keep doing and I need to try not to feel guilty doing so. It’s the guilt that I really struggle with. But I need to treat myself like a toddler. There were times last week when taco was so tired and it was clear a nap or earlier bedtime was what he needed and yet he fought it tooth and nail. And yes I fight it too when it’s so apparent to me that the answer is to rest rather than do one more things. Or to rest without feeling bad about needing that rest!
Elisabeth
So many hugs to you, Lisa. You have had such a long, hard stretch. Being pregnant with RA, having Taco during COVID, parenting toddlers (exhausting!!), travel, all the ongoing maintenance and challenges associated with having a chronic condition, a big, stressful job, work travel, the recent loss of your grandma. You have so much going on, and I wish I could whisk you away to hang out and drink coffee and go on long walks with me to decompress. You need a long hug and I want to be there to give it to you <3
As you know I am trying to "lean into" rest in a big way this year. But it's so much easier said than done! Especially in the throes of the busy years (which I am finally coming out of). I also feel like - correct me if I'm wrong - it can feel a bit like trying to patch a bullet wound with a BandAid. How do we start? Obviously with those little steps but it can feel so overwhelming. This is coming from someone who has felt chronically tired for over a decade.
I can get discouraged quickly when I don't feel energetic after a short little rest. And then there is guilt involved. Or questions of What is wrong with me?
But maybe there is nothing wrong and this is just...me?!
It was deeply touching when I talked to a friend I hadn't seen in a long time a few months ago. She was discussing how her doctor was trying to treat some of her health conditions so she would have more energy (she struggles with low energy). And this friend turned to me and said: I’ve just accepted I’m a low energy person. I don’t always have to work to fix it. I just need to accept it and work around it as best as I can. And then she continued – People like us [pointing between herself and me] are just always going to need a lot of rest and down time.
I’m obviously very motivated to be as energetic as I can be, but I think it removes some of the pressure for me to say – Yup. I have low energy, need a lot of time to unwind/recharge, etc. This is part of my physiology and my personality. I’ve been battling it so long but might be better off accepting it and being kinder to myself…
Beckett @ Birchwood Pie
I’m giving this post the “Thing I Saw on the Internet that Made Me Think the Most Today” award. So that should put you at ease about the content that you create;-)
Elisabeth
I’ve got nothing for this but a GIANT HEART EMOJI, Birchie <3 <3 <3
Sophie
First, I love these monthly Shmita posts!
Second, you are NOT the problem- high quality blog posts like yours add value to your readers and keep us off social media and other forms of shallow content.
Third, I’m not sure if you’ve read Cal Newport’s Slow Productivity, but he’s gotten the message and fixed the lack of gender representation thing! There are many women examples in this book and it makes me so happy because now I’m free to just enjoy his ideas without being distracted. And it’s a great book too.
Elisabeth
Thanks for such kind words, Sophie.
And thanks for the rec. I don’t think I’ve read Slow Productivity, yet!
sarah
Do you have a sort of safeguard in place for making sure the task of rest does not become work in a tedious sense and still honoring the effort it takes to pause in the midst of life’s noise? How are you bringing the spirit of joy and renewal to the labor of rest this year? How are you protecting your time in the spirit of sabbath/rest/renewal/ritual?
Elisabeth
Big questions, Sarah!
I am trying to filter things through a lens of how does this make me feel, so I don’t become legalistic about things. For example, I have been turning off my phone and computer COMPLETELY for 24 hours, but I still watch a movie with John on Saturday night. For me it has more to do with why I’m pursuing a particular activity. One does seem to propel me toward rest, the other not. Same with “work” – if I want to nap on my Sabbath, I do, but I don’t have it as as a MUST. Obviously, it’s a tough line to balance, though – spending this much time reading and contemplating rest means I’m not always “resting”. But I do think that educating myself about both the topic in general but, more specifically, what brings me energy, joy, and a sense of rest takes being quite intentional and putting a lot of thought into it. I also think personality matters…a lot. I am not naturally someone who eases into leisure. I’m a recovering perfectionist. I want to harness the positive aspects of that trait, and get rid of some of the less-ideal side effects (namely, feeling like I should be doing SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE AT ALL TIMES().
Maria
On the breastfeeding quote… I’m exclusively breastfeeding #3 and I 100% agree that it is only free if you assume my time has no value. I really really like breastfeeding and had a rough start with breastfeeding #1 so I really value it extra but, it is a lot of effort, and effort that’s often overlooked as “oh she’s just feeding the baby.” That being said I have great respect for those who feed formula because washing all the bottle would drive me NUTS.
Re are you contributing to the problem of people being online, etc… I think blogs are very different from social media. SM encourages scrolling, quick likes, and short comments. Blogging encourages thoughtful posts on the part of the blogger and longer comments from the readers. It’s a lot less “scrolly” than SM. For me, reading blogs is something that does fit into my hypothetical digital minimalism use of tech, social media does not. Of course, I’m really struggling with actually being a digital minimalist right now so I’m spending too much time on SM…
Elisabeth
Feeding a baby is just hard! Bottles are no joke and take a lot of work (and money). I wanted to breastfeed and couldn’t for a variety of reasons, but there was a lot of social guilt and shame associated with that which makes me so sad for New Mama Elisabeth!
I do think blogs – at least a certain stream of blogs – is quite different from social media! I also find a lot of thought-provoking information on blogs. And it’s also quite static. Social media can be updated regularly; blogs tend to be far less frequent so we “get a breather” in between being fed content.
San
“Time is the ultimate form of human wealth on this earth.” Sigh. Isn’t that the truth?
I admire you for your year of Shmita. It must be hard to “not make lists, not set goals, consciously try to slow down” but I hope that you’ll come out wiser and more relaxed on the other end. I always feel that days where I am able to slow down (and with it slow down time) are just so rejuvenating for the soul.
I’d like to second (and third) the sentiment that you are not the problem and that your blog posts don’t add to the distraction of online engagement because I feel like you’re here for the connection, not just “content” for others to consume. There’s a big difference IMHO.
Elisabeth
Yes! Blogs are such a great form of connecting and it really does feel like a network of intimate friendships. Social media is more like a tangled fray of big emotions. Obviously, it’s all how you harness it! Social media is a beloved part of so many people’s lives and I can appreciate the good it can represent. That said, I am endlessly glad that John was very anti-social media and that inspired me to jump off the Facebook ship (I had a Facebook account 15+ years ago, but I got off and don’t miss it in the slightest!).
Melissa
Nope, you are not the problem. I think reading blogs is more thoughtful than SM. They are generally longer posts, so you have to be prepared to slow down long enough to read them. They are generally more thoughtfully written, too. I also think there is a more meaningful connection because people are interacting more thoughtfully. Plus, I get to choose my interaction; I don’t have some SM company feed dictating when and what I will see. I think for many of us the writing is also a way of working out what we think and reflecting on our lives.
I love that quote from 24/6. I have “The Rest of God” on my TBR, maybe I should move it up?
Elisabeth
Yes! I see blog writing as, first and foremost, a form of self-therapy. I try to put out content others will find inspiring or helpful or interesting…but it’s primarily for me! I love to write! I love to form friendships and connections. And I’ve managed to do it without social media! I think I would have a very hard time managing social media. I struggle to find enough hours in the day without it – I can’t imagine juggling feeds and likes and that aspect of connecting (often with people I don’t know well at all?!). Blogging feels far more intimate and like a safe space.
The Rest of God was very thought-provoking. I think you’d like it?
Kate
I was just thinking about your year of shmita (and how I probably need to take one myself!) and then this post popped up on my feed! Such interesting insights. I can totally see how the “seven year itch” is tied into God’s plan for the seventh year. So many of His laws and precepts are directly related to our own human nature. It always cracks me up when non-religious people embark on a Dry January or Whole30 challenge — it’s like Lent (well, except for the spiritual aspect)! We are meant to go through these seasons of fast and feast and our spirits seem to crave that rhythm even when we are not intellectually aligned with God.
Digital rest is such an interesting concept. The never-ending scroll is both treacherous and off-putting; I agree with other commenters that blogging seems like a totally different form of media since it prioritizes individual and community connection and deeper thoughts, and thank God it’s not controlled by an algorithm that picks and chooses whose posts are visible to us. You are most definitely *not* part of the problem!
That line about thinking about where the path you are on leads is so timely. Not just in my own life but in the lives we are creating for our children. I want them to have a rich interior life with time for imaginative play, reading, creating, playing outside and just following their own muse; I want them to have an individual relationship with Jesus and a social connection to the church; and I want them to build friendships and skills in sports and music. Each thing we say “yes” to means we say “no” to something else, and it’s those intangibles that so often get frittered away. Thanks for giving me a new framework to help in choosing how we shape our lives. <3
Elisabeth
So many big thoughts in this comment, Kate! I so appreciate you weighing in and this especially resonated: “We are meant to go through these seasons of fast and feast and our spirits seem to crave that rhythm even when we are not intellectually aligned with God.” Yes! Our hearts are restless and are designed to seek rest and fulfilment in Him (whether we know the “Him” we seek.)
I also think a lot about legacy and the path I’m – often without thinking – paving for my own kids. I know they’ll remember me more by what I do than what I say, and I’m trying to be more intentional about how I spend MY time. As they age, they’ll make more and more decisions over their own time (let’s face it – between school and chores and not being able to drive or having a smartphone, our kids lives are largely dictated by US, their parents…but that is going to change so quickly. I mean, we HAVE A TEEN IN THE HOUSE!). I want me kids to be equipped with these life skills. While I’m not overtly teaching them principles of Sabbath and rest (beyond the natural rhythms of living in a faith-centric household), but I hope they’re picking things up by osmosis.
Anne
Elisabeth, thank you for making me think. Always. But especially with this post, and the careful consideration of what we put out into the world. You helped me frame something that had been bugging me for a bit, and having an external perspective really helped. <3
Elisabeth
I’m so glad I was helpful in some tiny way! All the best, my friend!
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