Thankfully, on all the big things, John and I see eye to eye. But there are plenty of small things where we absolutely do not agree.
TEN AREAS WE AGREE TO DISAGREE
- How to load the dishwasher. I don’t really care how it gets loaded as long as it’s relatively efficient and actually gets done. People leaving dishes on the counter instead of taking the ten seconds to load them any which way in the dishwasher is one of my pet peeves. John believes there is a right way and a wrong way. Judging from our interactions on the subject, I have concluded I mostly do it the wrong way.
- Temperature regulation. He will think it’s positively balmy outside and I’ll be wearing a headband and heavy sweatshirt. I get cold so easily, and I like to show him just how cold I am by putting my ice-cold extremities somewhere on his body. He doesn’t find this nearly as amusing as I do…
- Salt levels. I LOVE salt — but, ironically, if I happen to find something salty, John will almost always declare it undersalted. It defies reason.
- Mint chocolate ice cream. John thinks it tastes like toothpaste and wouldn’t order it in a million years. I, on the other hand, ADORE chocolate and mint.
- Falling asleep with a screen on. John loves nothing more than to doze off watching something. I hate this because I feel compelled to watch things through to the end. I can’t stand the idea of missing anything, even if it’s just a silly sitcom, and I have a difficult time turning it off part-way through.
- Eating raw cookie dough. John is VERY grossed out by the thought of raw eggs. I am not.
- Spice levels. I’ve talked about this before on the blog, but John likes his food spicy and I do not. Thankfully, there’s a little thing called hot sauce, so he’s able to adjust the spice level on his plate and leave my food unscathed.
- Spontaneity. I like to have things planned in advance, with contingencies for the dozen things that could go wrong. John would — I kid you not — hop in the car with zero notice and drive across the country, assuming we’d just figure things out along the way.
- Planning medium. John lives and dies by his digital planner. I’ll take paper, thank you very much.
- Gas tank level. First of all, John would want everyone to know he has never run out of gas. If I’m below half a tank, I’m already looking for the nearest gas station. He basically considers that a full tank.
FIVE UNIMPORTANT THINGS WE AGREE ON
- The correct placement for toilet paper. This might belong in the “important” list because it feels like a very serious matter…I’m kidding. Kind of. We both agree it is OVER.
- Thin pillows. We both sleep with thin pillows (we’re combo stomach/side sleepers).
- Packing preferences. We both prefer to pack light when we travel — and while he is a much more efficient packer than I am, we never disagree about only taking carry-ons.
- Music. I feel like our musical tastes overlap quite a lot.
- Food. Aside from spice level, we tend to enjoy the same types of food. Thank goodness!
FIVE IMPORTANT THINGS WE AGREE ON
- Our faith. We’re completely aligned in our core spiritual beliefs and this is by far the most important point of agreement.
- Money. We’re in alignment about financial decisions. What a gift.
- Parenting. We rarely disagree about parenting decisions and are very aligned with our expectations and methods of parenting.
- Tidiness. We have similar levels of cleanliness and tidiness.
- Travel preferences. We travel extremely well together. He manages transport and accommodations, and I plan out our activities. We appreciate the same things, and travelling together is such a delight.
Your turn.
- Tell me about some minor disagreements in your household!
- Would you ever hop in the car with zero notice for a long trip?
- How do you feel about chocolate + mint? Raw cookie dough?
- How close is the gauge to empty before you refill your tank?
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Nope, I don’t like the chocolate mint combo either! 😂
This is a great idea! I’ll be interested in other people’s comments, too!
Things we disagree on:
– how full our fridge needs to be (him: bursting at the seams, I: nearly empty is fine),
– scheduling events (he thinks I’m overscheduling, I think it’s not enough),
– jazz music (he thinks it’s great, I think it’s just noise).
Things we agree on:
– our faith (I think that’s an important factor),
– circle of friends,
– shared hobbies we enjoy like running, biking and hiking.
You struck me as a chocolate mint lover! Colour my surprised.
SAME ON THE FRIDGE. John wants it FULL of things and I like it as close to empty as possible!
we disagree in most of things you disagree too. isn’t it interesting that we can love and co-live with someone we have so many things we disagree? but also we learned to compromise.
other things we disagree:
– small money. we agree on big financial planning but he’s extremely frugal while I’m not.
– waste food. he refuses to waste food, while I prefer throwing out food when we don’t like it.
– keeping things. I am minimalist and want less things. he prefers to keep them for later use
– food preference. he likes animal meat, I am mostly vegan.
things we agree:
– family centered life. we both enjoy our family life instead of going out or party
– connection with extended relatives. we both care about them despite living far
– respect each others’ space. we both live freely while living with the other
Compromise, yes! And, thankfully, we never have to fight over who gets the end of the chocolate mint anything. It’s all mine!
My husband and I disagree on:
– having ham for a holiday meal. I’m not cooking that.
– music preferences.
– he eats anything and I’m picky to the extreme. ( he’d share your Gelato, while I’d push it away.)
We agree on:
-toilet paper placement. ( over, of course!)
-cats ( in favor)
– cookie dough (very much in favor)
We’ve done some day trips with minimal prep. Not terrible, but I prefer some prep ( snacks, extra clothes just in case, weather related items). He doesn’t like spending money, so buying food out or paying admission probably won’t happen.
In nice weather, I’ll let the gas gauge go below 1/4 tank ( I know how many miles I can go on what’s left, and I’m never far from a gas station) but in cold weather, I prefer at keast 1/4 if not half. Husband is similar.
I laughed at this: “having ham for a holiday meal. I’m not cooking that.” I’m not cooking that.
I think pre-marital counselling should always include discussions on proper toilet paper placement 😉
Oh, chocolate and mint is the perfect flavour combo!! If I could choose one chocolate type ever, it would be After Eight!
In our household we mostly disagree about things related to keeping the house tidy – such as cleaning up after yourself (he simply doesn’t see when it’s needed). Recently I’ve decided that “choosing my battles” is important for stress levels and that I’d rather clean up after him (within limits) than being upset and argue all the time. We also both love spicy food but I think he adds too much salt too often, we’re both into fitness and even if he enjoys running and cycling, I’m focused on strength, we love hiking together and we can go to some nice place where he can run while I can walk, so it isn’t a problem really.
But – how you hang the loo roll IS important! LOL!
There are definitely things we both choose to “overlook” for the sake of marital harmony. Since we see eye to eye on toilet paper placement, I figure most of the rest of the things can be easily worked through 😉
Well, I’ve given up on this one after almost 40 years, but Don Never, Ever puts down the toilet seat after he pees. Even when the little girls are around. Grrrr….
NO! I cannot believe this. How frustrating. John is pretty much perfect on this. Indy…not so much, but we’re working on him. Then again he’s 11 and Don…is not.
This is a fun post! I would never go on a spontaneous road trip! I might be the least spontaneous person ever, though! I love mint chocolate chip and will eat raw cookie dough. I would not want to flirt with empty on a gas tank but that is not something I have to deal with as Phil puts gas in our cars. He’s an acts of service kind of guy so owns that chore.
Similarities:
– We have the same values and align with the same political parties. We did not align with the same parties when we met in 2012, but that changes in 2016 and we now are very aligned.
– We both prefer quiet, tidy environments. So we mourn the loss of those environments together now that we have small children.
– We agree on nearly all parenting decisions.
– We work in the same industry and have similar educational backgrounds – this is something that just happened, it was not important to me. I get a lot of “wow your dinner conversations must be fun” kind of comments but we actually rarely talk about work.
– We are both quite frugal although he is far more frugal than I am.
Differences:
– We do not share the same faith. This was something we talked through so much when we were dating. We met with two priests to talk through it, too. Ultimately we came to accept that we have different faith beliefs and he is supportive of me raising the kids in my faith community of choice. This is a tough one, but ultimately I focused on the fact that my husband has the best heart and our values align.
– We have different pop culture preferences. Our movie Venn Diagram is the narrowest strip that mostly includes documentaries about serial killers and athletes. Lol. For music, he prefers rock/classic rock, and I like Brandi Carlile and Taylor Swift so there is ZERO overlap. He likes Brandi but can only handle a few songs at a time.
– I am more of a planner than he is. He understands that we have to plan in order to see friends now that we have kids but he does not like planning/talking about things into the future.
– He is more of a private person with onion layers that need to be pulled back but I am quite open and will talk about nearly anything with someone. He jokes that his blog title would be mindyourowndamnbusiness.com.
I remember reading that you never fill your gas tank! That stood out to me since I am home solo so much. I gas up all. the. time.
I feel like in terms of pop culture we mostly overlap but then are HARD passes where we don’t. There are certain movies that he knows I have zero interest in watching and he will watch those without me without even asking. Ditto something like a Hallmark movie. I’ll watch a few each season and he has ZERO interest and that’s fine with me.
That blog title is hilarious and I can see it becoming a cult classic.
You and John are such a lovely couple, and having the same core values does help things go smoothly. My husband and I share the same core values as well. We honestly don’t argue much at all. He’s a good planner, level headed, and logical. I’m almost always happy to go along with whatever he decides and just enjoy the ride! But if I truly want something, I will definitely speak up about it, and he listens to me. We have a good time and laugh a lot, and I’m so grateful for him.
I don’t know much about your husband, Michelle, but you sound perfectly suited for each other <3
Those “mint tastes like toothpaste” people – I mean, it does. But also I like it. More for us!!!
Ever since Rob retired, I almost never fill my gas tank. He just takes my car and does it for me. I have a gas fairy! I used to never let my car get less than 50% but now I am SO lazy. He’s conditioned me! I’ll let it get to like a quarter of a tank and then MAGICALLY it’s full again. This is probably very bad for me but hey. It gives him a purpose!
Hmmm. We agree on a lot of things, small things we disagree on: cilantro. Although is that a “disagree?” or is it a genetic “tastes like soap” thing. I don’t know. I like folding towels in thirds and he folds them in half. We almost never go to bed at the same time. He likes action movies.
We travel well together probably because we are not the same. He’s the planner, I’m the go-er.
Wow, I’m making it sound like all the work in our relationship is being done by him!
What’s wrong with toothpaste, right???
It gives him a purpose – hahahaha.
We both loooooove cilantro (and celery; chuckle, chuckle), but I have a sister who HATES it and SHU told me before she came to visit that one of the few things she hates is cilantro. I was planning to make a curried dish where cilantro is a key ingredient. I pretty quickly struck that from the menu.
Ah, well my husband is apparently on your side with the dishwasher, because he just puts things in randomly. If you load it with a SYSTEM, you can fit more in!!! We also have temperature regulation issues at night- he gets cold but I’m always too hot.
Raw cookie dough grosses me out- actually, I find most foods that aren’t done yet to be unappetizing. Like if you’re supposed to taste something for spice level/salt or whatever but you’re not at the actual end of the recipe, I don’t want to taste it. I know that’s weird. I’m actually not sure where my husband stands on the cookie dough issue- my guess is, he’d eat it.
I think it’s fine to disagree on all sorts of little things, as long as you agree on the big ones, which you and John obviously do!
John is REPULSED by the cookie dough, thing. My kids and I love it and he is openly shocked and horrified if he spots us eating it.
I can relate to the salt and spice disparity, except that I am the “John” in my marriage. We have a decent amount of overlap in foods that we like, but he could happily eat the same thing everyday and I want more variety.
Neither one of us is picky about the dishwasher, but he can always find a way to fit more things in, so as a couple we both benefit from his advanced skill level.
Our minor disagreements are largely over the condition of the house. I’m a clean as you go, relatively tidy person, he is not. We’re mismatched on travel: he enjoys travel but always seems to have a reason that he can’t do it, and I am currently working my way through a travel bug. I would totally hop in the car with no notice to go on a trip (assuming that we had dog care lined up), but I’d rather plan things out.
Chocolate + mint is OK for me. I wouldn’t turn it down, but it’s not my first choice. I’m all about raw cookie dough!
I do not ever play loosey goosey with my gas tank! I can get 400 miles on a tank on a freeway trip, but I don’t ever do it. If I’ve gone 300 miles then it’s time to get gas. As you might guess, this is because when I was young and dumb I was totally willing to push it and once I ended up running out of gas late at night 15 miles from home. To my credit, I only did it once.
I could eat the same thing over and over (and do). John does as well, but he definitely craves more variety and is FAR more adventerous.
Eeks. Running out of gas at night is my WORST nightmare. Thankfully, it is unlikely to ever happen. Well, it might happen when I’m with John but then I’d have him to sort out the problem. Though, once again, he’d want me to clarify for everyone he has never run out of gas. (Well, he did once but the gas gauge was faulty, so he claims that doesn’t count.)
I agree with John that mint chip is an abomination. I never want to eat it.
Our disagreements mostly have to do with religion and food stuff. He’s a lapsed Catholic who could probably be persuaded back into the fold with the right church and leadership and I’m an atheist who never thinks about religion. He’s a control enthusiast whose concern about food safety is unnecessary in my view. So I’ll eat the raw cookie dough, he won’t even eat the cookie if it’s sort of soft.
We also disagree on the fuel tank. I don’t like it below a quarter of a tank. He thinks the gas light coming on is a suggestion. Oh, well. We both try to be considerate of the other one on the important things!
It stresses me out to see the gas light come on. STRESSES ME OUT. That is a suggestion to reorder life priorities!!!! I am not a Live On the Edge kind of woman and that feels like I’m about to go over a cliff.
Abomination. That is exactly how he would describe it too. He also hates all things candy cane flavoured. I LOVE shortbread topped with some crushed candy canes and he would rather eat wallpaper paste.
I love mint chocolate and raw cookie dough! Coconut flavored or scented anything however, I can’t stand. I feel like I’m trying to eat sunscreen!
I prefer to keep the gas tank at least half full but sometimes it does go down to a quarter.
Same! I feel like coconut flavoured things are very sickly. Ugh. Not a fan!
Whoa, Elisabeth, you and I might be twins, separated by 30 years! That was almost scary to read, feeling as if you were peeking into my brain and life.
You will be pleased to know that I converted my husband to Over the Top TP behavior; I think it took about 10 years of quietly doing it my way. He converted me to chillier house temperatures (aided by my age-related personal power-surges). Unfortunately, he willingly adopted my love for Mint-chip ice cream, but now we never buy ice cream so there is none to be shared.
Fun post!
Didn’t you sense my telepathic brain read of you yesterday? Haha.
I am really hoping that one benefit to perimenopause/menopause is a general thawing of my veins. I live cold and at this point in my life am so very “over” that condition.
This was so fun to read, Elisabeth! I love thinking about the venn diagram that would represent me and my husband. Silly things come to mind, like how his absolute biggest stress about going places is the parking, and mine is the driving. Or how we cannot agree on what constitutes “speeding” — I think it is anything, anything at all over the posted speed limit, and he thinks you’re not speeding until you’ve gone past 10% above the speed limit. Sigh. (I am not saying that I go exactly the speed limit at all times! I just acknowledge that I am SPEEDING if I do!)
I hate finding parking. It can be the absolute worst. It depends where I’m driving. Thankfully, where we live, driving and parking are generally not too challenging. I think I would rather die than drive in a city.
Tell me about some minor disagreements in your household! Coach gets very upset when I reload the dishwasher after he thinks it’s ‘done’. If I can fit more in, I will. If I want to spend 1 minute or less reorganizing to fit that one thing in, why does he care?
Would you ever hop in the car with zero notice for a long trip? Not unless it was emergent. No. I need to pack. I would be fine figuring out what to do when we got there, or happy to just chill when we arrive somewhere – but I do need time to figure out what food I’m taking and my meds and do I have clean laundry, etc.
How do you feel about chocolate + mint? Raw cookie dough? Mint chip ice cream is one of my favorites. Yum. Coach likes it too, not sure it would be his number 1 though. If I could eat gluten, I would enjoy a solid lick of cookie dough while I’m baking, but alas . . . stupid celiac.
Coach and I align on many things like faith, being frugal, parenting, and allowing the house to not be tidy at all times. We tends to be early or on time to things, and I’m forever trying to do one more thing and that makes me run late . . . some times. I’m working on it though and I think I’m improving. Oh, we both can get fired up during our kids’ sporting events . . . but I’m probably more likely to be sure that I’m ‘heard.’
I have gotten much worse about trying to fit in “one more thing.”
When I was a teen, I arrived everywhere 20 minutes early. Now I aim to arrive on time and generally do. My biggest pet peeve is arriving somewhere early or on time and having everyone else arrive much later. ARGH. Think of all the things I could have done.
My father is very much of the belief if you’re not 20 minutes early to EVERYTHING you are late.
This was a fun when to read! I think about salmonella way too much, so I’m with your husband. Mint Chip is my husband’s favorite flavor. I love plans and would love to take a trip that you have planned!
Yes, he is VERY grossed out by the thought of consuming raw eggs. Maybe I’m dancing with danger? But it tastes so good…
Twelve years ago my husband and I decided to disagree on menus. He eats meat and cooks it for himself. I eat veggies and cook them myself. Love hanging out in the kitchen together. Omnivore and carnivore. Bliss. 55 years
This sounds like an excellent plan and compromise. I do eat meat but if I didn’t I would NOT want to handle it.
You agree on the important things: faith, money, parenting. The rest is not all that important, in the long run. I had to laugh about the mint chocolate thing because my son-in-law was the first person I’ve ever known who takes such a strong disliking to that flavor. Especially since he seems to like everything else. I won’t eat raw cookie dough or anything with raw eggs or meats. I got violently ill once from eating undercooked tuna. Never again! I do live on the edge however and wait until my gas light comes on before getting gas.
Chocolate mint seems to bring out very strong reactions (either way – you either love it or hate it).
Eeks. I think if I got sick after eating raw cookie dough that might be enough to turn me off of it forever. Until that time, I continue to play roulette…
Such a fun topic! I think Nick and I are similar to you and John in our Venn diagram overlaps — we agree on the big things like faith, parenting (mostly!), our sense of humor, our approach to finances, and the types of trips we like to take.
We definitely differ in our taste in TV shows/movies (he opts for dry historic documentaries or intense dramas — recently he’s been watching all of these movies about plane crashes, whereas I want my TV time to make me laugh and RELIEVE stress, not cause it!). I am sad to say he is a toilet-paper-under barbarian. Sometimes I would rather he just not replace the roll if he’s going to do it the wrong way. *shrug* His tolerance for clutter is much less than mine and my doom piles really bother him (whereas I don’t really see them until we’re getting the house ready for clutter). He doesn’t like chocolate mixed with anything other than peanut butter, specifically fruit, and DEFINITELY does not like fruit with meat (“sweet belongs with sweet” although that seems to contradict the chocolate + PB combo). We both are okay with somewhat spontaneous travel, but I like to at least flesh out the important parts of our travel with reservations, checking opening hours of attractions, etc. so we don’t miss something really amazing.
PLANE CRASHES??? I remember watching a documentary about all the Boeing planes that had been crashing and John showed me the manifest for his flight THE NEXT DAY and he was on THAT EXACT PLANE. Eeks. Not a good feeling as a wife.
Doom piles. Haha. That made me chuckle.
Most of the time I agree on the chocolate mixing; I do NOT like chocolate dipped fruit at all. But I enjoy Brooksides, so that’s chocolate covered acai berries. Yum.
My husband and I are the same as you and John with filling up the gas tank. So I mostly just fill up the cars because the low gas gauge stresses me out. I probably would not go on a spontaneous long trip. We do travel well together. I plan everything, he does all the driving and goes along and appreciates the planning. It works out great.
We’re similar. John does all the driving and I (try to) help navigate. I mostly plan our activities, though. And he definitely appreciates that!
The gas tank thing… oh my gosh. He is usually good about refilling it but then sometimes he will just push it, and he HAS actually run out of gas, WHILE TAKING A FRIEND TO THE AIRPORT! It was in rural Maine and he had to flag down a passing car and get a ride to the gas station and back. My grandfather used to purposefully run down the tank to find out how many miles he had left once it said empty.
And this is why I never get my gas tank get low!!
This is fun! Al is also more daring than I – he would also take a spontaneous trip on a low tank of petrol! Ha!
We disagree on tidiness levels (his threshold for mess is higher), pistachios (he loves, I hate), who should tidy the kitchen (Al says the cook, as they’re cooking), I say the person who didn’t cook. Oh and I like Indian, he’s not such a fan (too much ghee).
Things we agree on- social and political leanings (we lean left), spending on travel rather than material things, how to parent (most of the time), spice levels (we both like it high and add hot sauce to many things), our love of animals, our non-frugality (this is actually not great, I wish one of us was naturally frugal to keep us in line haha!).
I have grown to love pistachios, but pistachio-flavoured things can be very hit and miss.
Give me ALLLL of the chocolate and mint combos. This is my favorite time of year because it’s everywhere! Also yes to raw cookie dough. ALWAYS. I’m sure if I ever get sick from it, that’ll cause me to stop eating it but so far so good!
Once my car started telling me how many miles until I ran out of gas, I became a lot more comfortable with how far I can go. Before that, the minute the gas light came on, I was convinced I needed to get gas IMMEDIATELY. I never let it dip below 20 miles, though, because then I start getting nervous, lol.
Like you, I continue to be welcome to play the odds with raw cookie dough! I mean, I’ve made it 38 years with no problem, so my odds seem to be pretty good.
TWENTY MILES. Oh my goodness, I’d wet myself if I got that low.
Oh, that was delightful read, Elisabeth. I loved learning about the things you and John have in common – or not 😉 You know I firmly agree with YOU on the mint-chocolate ice cream (whereas my Jon also think it tastes like medicine LOL).
I am very much a planner, but I have learned to be flexible and make things up as I go more and more (so it doesn’t freak me out nearly as much anymore). But my preference would be to plan ahead, always!
I love that your music taste overlaps – it might not be a deal breaker, but I do enjoy listening to music with (my) Jon and that we like the same music.
Definitely not dealbreakers, but very much “nice to haves” in terms of overlap in interests and music <3
Tell me about some minor disagreements in your household! Salt. Eveyrthing is too salty for me, and never enough for my husband. He’s weird! 🤣
Would you ever hop in the car with zero notice for a long trip? Um, ZERO notice? Nope. I have too many lose ends at home that need to be tied first.
How do you feel about chocolate + mint? Raw cookie dough? I don’t hate it, but it would’nt be my first choice.
How close is the gauge to empty before you refill your tank? I’ve never run out of gas. (close a few times!) my husband has run out of gas several times and I had to rescue him!
Like you said, agreeing on the big things is A BIG THING, so bravo!!
He’s weird – haha! I wonder what he’s saying behind your back, Suz. That crazy lady I married things everything’s too salty!
You can add Stranded Husband Rescuer to your CV! (I haven’t had to do it…yet. Eventually John’s luck will run out!)
Can we discuss the dishwasher please? My husband puts things in all crazy, and I know there is a system. Like he’ll put things spilling over the tines, or crowded together, or he’ll put a Tupperware in there with the top so close to the bowl that no water can get in, or he’ll put spoons in so they are spooning, and no water can get in there. The other day I asked what happened to one of our dishwasher safe wine glasses, and he said ‘oh, it broke in the dishwasher’, and I thought (but did not say), ‘that would not have happened if it were loaded correctly.’ SIGH. I seriously don’t understand you Willy nilly, fly by night dishwasher loaders. Sadly, my daughter has learned from him.
We agree on the important things, though sometimes we have to convince each other. We never fight about money, but we will have discussions about whether it is a better to buy a new car or keep fixing the old one, and eventually one of us has to give up. (Actually, we bought a new car, and are also fixing the old one, since we have two cars).
We’re both 1/4 tank people on gasoline, but there are gas stations everywhere and we don’t really hit weather issues like ice or snow.
We agree on our (lack of) faith, and I am always amazed by couples who do not agree on this but marry anyway. There’s a show (Netflix I think) called ‘Nobody Wants This’, and it’s about a rabbi who falls in love with an agnostic, and it’s REALLY important to him that she convert. That seems really big to me. REALLY BIG. Like, I have to suddenly believe in an entire system of faith, in a higher being and a set of rules and so on? It’s one thing to be willing because you love someone, it’s another to actually GET THERE and believe with all of your heart, right?
I have read that the danger of raw cookie dough is actually the raw flour. Eggs are kind of dangerous, flour is more so. I’ll still eat it. Also runny egg yolks, raw oysters, tuna tartare, sushi, soft cheeses. Have I ever gotten sick? Yeah, on mussels I think. I still eat them anyway. Life is short. (I mean, I don’t forage for mushrooms or anything…that might make life shorter…)
Okay, I am not quite as footloose as your husband. Mine has order and it is fairly neat, I just don’t attack the situation like it’s a military exercise. So it’s neat… just not neat enough for my husband 😉
Good point about weather and access to gas stations being a big factor! I am literally headed to gas up today because we’re set to receive a big dumping of snow.
I cannot imagine being with someone who does not share my faith. Though, part of our faith includes the fact the Bible specifically says to NOT do that. I am sure many people have said they will convert, etc, but then of course like you highlight it is very different to give verbal concurrence to that and not follow through with action!
LIFE IS SHORT! Eat the cookie dough. It feels made for a bumper sticker 🙂